There are a lot of people out there who are either in, or think they are in an abusive relationship. It took me months and several hours spent in the Adelaide public library to work out that I had been the victim of emotional abuse.
Collected here are some resources and articles which you could use to better understand your situation and ways you can deal with it.
(A lot of these articles have been written from the POV of abusive man/victimised woman which I find a little frustrating, as more needs to be done to bring the “abused man” into the spotlight – but if you are an emotionally abused man just swap the s/he’s around and you’ll be fine)
Articles of Interest…
Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out: On Relationship and Recovery
By Patricia Evans
An article which summarises a book on emotional abuse, very informative with insight from victims of abuse.
By Natalie P.
An excellent “rant” on emotional abuse that made me laugh, made me angry and made me cry. It was like reading about my previous relationship (if you swap the he’s and the she’s!)
The Guilt of the Abused
By Sam Vaknin
An article about the how the abused often feel guilty or blame themselves for what is being done to them.
By Steve Hein
An excellent resource of emotional abuse information, written predominantly from the perspective of abused teenagers/children from their parents but the information is equally relevant for the abuse in adult sexual/friend/work relationships.
By Kerby Anderson
An article which includes a religious/biblical reflection on emotional abuse.
Responding to Emotional Abuse: How you can help someone you know
Includes some excellent information on how to help and support someone who is in an emotionally abusive relationship.
These two Facebook groups offer information and support to victims of emotional abuse.
You will need a Facebook ID to access these groups.
Some books which deal with emotional abuse.
– Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse [Gregory L. Jantz, Ann McMurray]
– Trauma and Recovery [J L Herman]
– Emotional Abuse: The Trauma and the Treatment [Marti Tamm Loring]
– Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse the Erosion of Identity [Marie-France Hirigoyen]
As I have mentioned in both previous parts you are not to blame for the abuse! Nothing you have done warrants such appalling, insidious and damaging treatment.