All that I am, all that I ever was…

I am more than my mental health. I am more than my homelessness. I am more than any one aspect of me. I am Addy. And this is…

Things Not to Say to Someone Suffering from Depression

Okay, I’m gonna see if I get 100 of them…I’ll try not to repeat myself…here we go, 100 sure fire things that will make someone suffering from depression feel even WORSE (however good your intention!)

  1. “Oh, just cheer up!
  2. “Stop being so bloody lazy,”
  3. “You’re so selfish,”
  4. “You need to start appreciating what you’ve got before you lose it all,”
  5. “You never think of anyone but yourself,”
  6. “You’re just doing this to hurt me!”
  7. “You don’t look depressed,”
  8. “If you’re feeling depressed, well, you’ve bought it on yourself,”
  9. “All you have to do is pretend and sooner or later you’ll get over it,”
  10. “Just be happy!”
  11. “There’s always someone worse off than you,”
  12. “Just stop taking the medication, that’ll perk you up in no time,”
  13. “Just get a job,”
  14. “You just need to get out more,”
  15. “What do you have to be depressed about?”
  16. “Lighten up!”
  17. “Stop bloody feeling sorry for yourself,”
  18. “Why do you always make me feel like this?”
  19. “Get off your butt and just do it!”
  20. “Why should I care?”
  21. “Yeah, like I care!’
  22. “Why should I care about your problems when I have my own to deal with?”
  23. “Go frack yourself!”
  24. “You’ve got so much, you’ve got no reason to be depressed,”
  25. “I just want to help you,”
  26. “I just wanted to help you,”
  27. “I just want to help you change,”
  28. “I just wanted to help you change,”
  29. “So? You’re depressed, aren’t you always?”
  31. “Go see this [insert name of alternative therapist] you’ll be right as rain in minutes,”
  32. “Just stop thinking about yourself all the time, you’re so selfish!”
  33. “Just go for a walk,that always makes me feel better,”
  34. “There’s no such thing as depression,”
  35. “There’s no such thing as mental illness,”
  36. “There’s no such thing as shyness,”
  37. “It’s all in your head, so if you stop thinking that way you’ll be fine,”
  38. “Oh, get a grip,”
  39. “Why can’t you just be NORMAL!?”
  40. “Go and buy some new clothes, all fixed,”
  41. “Eat healthily, that’s all you need to do,”
  42. “Most people are as happy as they want to be,”
  43. [after a brief 3minute conversation] “There…all better,”
  44. “Quit the pills, take these vitamins, sorted,”
  45. “It’s all your fault,”
  46. “You just have to help people!”
  47. “You’re so ungrateful,”
  48. “You’re so weak,”
  49. “You’re so useless,”
  50. “You’re so unpassionate,”
  51. “You’re so pathetic,”
  52. “You’re so selfish,” [had to be repeated this one]
  53. “Life is what you make of it, so make it something other than depression,”
  54. “Smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone,”
  55. “God, you’re always so depressing to be around,”
  56. “Why can’t you just make yourself happier,”
  57. [after a brief conversation or a few days since you’re last conversation] “Do you feel better now?
  58. “Whoever said life was fair,”
  59. “Life is just what you make of it,”
  60. “Just pretend like it’s not there,”
  61. “You’re just a fracking pathetic little [insert expletive of choice] !”
  62. “Just have a couple of beers and you’ll be fine,”
  63. “You’re insane!”
  64. “We should meet up sometime,”
  65. “Have a bath/shower, that always cheers me up,”
  66. “It’s not that bad,”
  68. “All you are is just being selfish, you know that,”
  69. “Depression is contagious, it’s not fair to do that to people,”
  70. “You need a girlfriend/boyfriend,”
  71. “You need a friend,”
  72. “It’s such a beautiful day,”
  73. “All you’re doing is punishing others with your depression,”
  74. “Oh, quit your whining and whinging – just go out and help people, see how bad some people have it, that’s all you have to do!”
  75. “Just get out there,”
  76. “Go have some fun!”
  77. “I don’t want to have anything to do with you until you’re happy again,”
  78. “Jeez, you’re making me depressed as well,”
  79. “You want to feel this way,”
  80. “You’re just attention seeking,”
  81. “You’re just creating dramas,”
  82. “Oh just grow up!”
  83. “If you don’t like feeling this way, just change it,”
  85. “I worked so hard to cheer you up and it was all for nothing,” [yay, guilt trips!]
  86. “We all have our crosses to bare,”
  87. “Chocolate – you’ll be right as rain after that,”
  88. “I know you helped me a lot last year, but I’m not going to be for you,”
  89. “You’re just so self absorbed, you don’t care about anyone but you,”
  90. “Frack, it’s always me-me-me with you isn’t it!”
  91. “You’re too hard on yourself,”
  92. “What you need is something to really go wrong in your life to give you perspective,”
  93. “You’re embarrassing me,”
  94. “Just try harder!”
  95. “You can do anything you want if you set your mind to it,”
  96. “Just don’t think about it,”
  97. “Just start doing things that make you happy,”
  98. “I know how you feel, I’ve been depressed for a few days at a time,”
  99. “God, what are you trying to be, a martyr?”
  100. “Why not just try not being depressed…?”

Phew! Made it, couple of repeats but they’re the ones that really fracking annoy me. If you seriously care about someone suffering from depression, for fracks sake, don’t say any of the above!

If you have any others, I’d love to hear them :-)


One thought on “Things Not to Say to Someone Suffering from Depression

  1. So what DO you say to depressed people?

    Being one, and I still don’t know…


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