“Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods”
that nothing in reality can ever dare to attain to.
in fact if you are lucky enough to have someone you call your
you are already doing better than a lot of people out there.
like any form of relationship
plus a smidgen of luck,
but is that all that’s needed for a solid friendship?
“Sorry sorry, I have this effect, people just get obsessed. Is it the smile? Is it the aftershave? Is it the capacity to laugh at myself? I dunno, it’s crazy!”
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Some friends expect you to act a certain way,
to behave in a way that contravenes your mood.
They ask you to lie about what you’re feeling
in exchange for the privilege of being their friend.
all those songs and movies which tell everyone
what a friend should be
how they should behave.
leaping into friendship with others
as if it’s the most important thing in the world.
Almost as if we are worth nothing
unless we are loved by other people.
we must all do,
to achieve friendship.
you must already be a friend to yourself.
how much youare worth to the world.
“A friend is someone who is there for you when he’d rather be anywhere else.”
Does depression impact on friendship?I will never forget something that was once said to me:
“Surround yourself with positive people, Addy,”
They were the last words this person said to me.
Sounds good doesn’t it
Filling your life with positive people,
paints such an awesome ideal of utopia
that I want to skip down the street as if my life were a musical.
Shame I can’t sing…or dance…but no matter.
If it were only that simple!
for some reason or another
never seem to able to achieve this
mythical ‘positive state’
they dream of so much?
The people everyone are looking for.
(although I can see why other people would see me this way)
And this is why I personally think that the answer is
Depression doesimpact on friendship!As depression affects the mind
and primarily how one views him/herself,
their views of who they are become tainted and skewed
by their own inner-voice.
of oneself makes it nigh on impossible to:Like yourself
with other people
when you can’t even carry one off with yourself
is nigh on impossible.
Don’t get me wrong,
it can be done,
I just haven’t figured out how.I stated in an earlier post that right now,
I don’t really have anyone that I would call a friend.
(It doesn’t bother me all that much)
I’m sure there is no-one out there who would call me a friend.Which is a lonely and depressing thought,
but one that’s instantly understandable,
and something that I blame only on myself.
and I know from personal experience,
that this can impact drastically on friends.
eventually exhausting them,
until your friendship implodes into infinity
(and beyond).You see,
however much I don’t want to believe it,
once a friendship is ended
(either by you, them or through the unfortunate intervention of an external force)
it is over!
(all that nonsense).
A friendship is forged between two people
when they have a connection between souls.
If that friendship ends,
the connection is severed.
but not impossible,
to have friends.Until you learn to love yourself.
No-one will ever love you in return.
“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”
Martin Luther King Jr
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