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Learning to Love Yourself: Ideas for Self Love

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Strip naked (yep, get it ALL off!)
Go stand in front of a full length mirror.
Now, instead of focusing on all those moles, hair patches and love handles…
…concentrate on all the drop dead gorgeous things about yourself.
Yep, it’s bloody hard, but you can do it!
Try three things to start with.
Say them out loud to yourself – and mean it! Things like:
“Addy – my god – you have the cutest smile you’ve ever seen!”
“Look at those nipples, they’re damned awesome, how could anyone not like those?”
“And good god, look at that adorably spankable ass? Absolutely mind blowing,”
See, you’re starting to see yourself differently already…
…now do this everyday, every-single-day!
Adding one more thing each time.
Within a few weeks there’ll be nothing left you don’t love.

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TREAT YOURSELF TO YOUR FAVOURITE FRUIT
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Go out and buy five A4 pieces of paper in your favourite colour.
Grab yourself some coloured pens and some blu-tac as well.
Now go home…
…make yourself your favourite beverage…
…stock up on a healthy snack…
…light some candles…
… and sit at your desk.
That’s the easy part…
…now comes the hard part!
You are going to fill one side of 4 of the pages of A4 with…
…things that you love about yourself.
Begin each sentence with “I love…” and go from there.
Absolutely anything! Physical. Mental. Metaphysical. Anything!
It’s a hell of a lot easier than it sounds – my list ended up looking like this: “Addy’s ‘I Love…’ list“…
…and it’s still growing!
Once done, stick them somewhere on your wall so you can see them.
(Stick the blank page beside them so you can add to it whenever you think of it)

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REMEMBER YOURSELF WHEN YOU WERE IN HIGH SCHOOL
SERIOUSLY
AREN’T YOU JUST SO MUCH MORE FANTABULOUS NOW?
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Single?
Lonely?
Sick of all those couples pashing, snogging and fondling in the street?
Beat them at their own game.
Go on a date with the person you love – YOU!
Cook your favourite meal (or order take-away), light some candles, throw on your favourite movie.
It sounds silly…
…but enjoy it…this is you time…anyway…
…the fun parts still to come!
What do all those sickening couples do at the end of their dates?
Yep!
So get nekkid!
And get that butt to the bedroom for some naughty fun and games!
It’s purrfectly natural.
So don’t go feeling all guilty about it.
Remember his is ‘you’ time – so love yourself in every way that you want to.
Your mind and body will adore you for it!

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WHEN SOMEONE INSULTS YOU – CHUCKLE SOFTLY,
SHAKE YOUR HEAD AND WALK AWAY.
THEY’RE NOT WORTH IT.
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It’s dead easy to beat yourself up about being wrong.
We’ve all been there.
Sitting there alone, bemoaning to ourselves about all our mistakes…
…whilst spanking our inner moppet for all those silly things we’ve cocked up.
Stop.
It’ll take time, but start catching yourself doing things right.
Instead of smacking yourself for messing up…
…hug yourself for doing something awesome.
You didn’t burn the cheese sandwich this time? HHHUUUUGGGGGG :)
Yay! You’ve remembered to take the garbage out! HHUUUGGGG:)
Bugger…forgot to sign the report…but hey, it was a damn well written report. HUUGGG :)
Get the idea?

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LAUGH YOUR ASS OFF AT LEAST ONCE A DAY
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If S.A.D is making you feel crappy what can you do?
(for those not in the know – S.A.D is Social Anxiety Disorder)
Talking is so hard isn’t it?
I know.
Been there.
Done that.
Always coming up with that awesome story or wit-tastic one liner about three days too late. Well, there are things you can do…
Start small!
Don’t aim for that big conversation first time out. Build up to it and you’ll be feeling so much more positive about yourself in no time. So to prepare yourself for that potential panic attack at the big night out with your mates on Friday, start earlier in the week.
a) On Monday, ask a stranger for the time.
b) On Tuesday, ask a shop-keeper about the weather. It’s a cheesy way to start but a small conversation will follow.
c) On Wednesday, do both Monday & Tuesday’s things for practice
d) On Thursday we need to up the anti – try start a conversation with a complete stranger. Make it about something you like so as not to throw yourself into the deep end.
e) On Friday, have your absolute favourite food for lunch. You want to feel really positive for that big night out – no chickening out now with excuses about being sck just ’cause you don’t want a panic attack in front of everyone.
And then by the time you hit the pub with your mates you’ve got several spontanious conversations with complete strangers under your belt.
YOU’RE AWESOME!
So starting a conversation with people who actually know you should be much easier,
Take your time until you’re comfortable,
Then start a conversation with the person you are most comfortable with.
This will ripple on to bring someone else in.
And another.
Soon, everyone there will be chatting because of you.
How awesome is that!
No panic attack.
So then all you need to do is try and have a fantabulous evening…because next week, you’re gonna do it all over agian – upping the anti each time. By the end of the year you’ll be feeling so much better about yourself.
:)

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THE NEXT TIME SOMEONE ANNOYS YOU
THROW SOGGY MARSHMALLOWS AT THEM.
IT WILL
A. MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER
B. IT WON’T HURT ANYONE
C. HAVE YOU BOTH LAUGHING YOUR ASSES OFF
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More ideas will be posted soon…so keep loving yourself until then…you are awesome :-)

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3 thoughts on “Learning to Love Yourself: Ideas for Self Love

  1. I cant understand this entry, I appear to be seeing double

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  2. There seemed to be some cross-browser compatibility issues with the original formatting of this post. I’ve rewritten it now, so hopefully it’s as clear as water should be if it weren’t for the chemicals and crap. Happy loving :)

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  3. hey, love that idea for dating yourself! what the hell, im good company, im gonna do it!

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